Hello darling, I just wanted to check in on you and find out how you’re really doing.
If you’re like me then you probably feel like you’re running out of time to do all the important things you need to do and the list keeps growing and growing... You’re managing your own business while juggling kids, cooking multiple times a day, trying to keep in touch with family and simply trying to keep your head above water. Find comfort in knowing that during these times it’s completely normal for your mental health to take a bit of a dip. What is important is to identify the difference between ‘I’m having an off day’ and ‘I feel like I’m stuck in an endless pit with no way out’.
This blog is simply a gentle reminder that your feelings are valid and to give you a few positive ‘distractions’ and tips to help you get through this time. So, get comfy, make your favourite cuppa and let's heal together...
#1 Value Yourself
Treat yourself with kindness and respect and avoid self-criticism. This is something I've struggled with for years. It's taken me most of my 26 years to learn to love myself, my body and my art and although it's been a long journey, I'm finally learning not to be so hard on myself and my work. It takes time, a lot of gratitude journaling and manifestation but I'm finally learning that it's okay to put myself first.
#2 Treat Your Body Right
I'm sure you've heard that taking care of your body can do wonders for your mental health. Well, it's true! Eating nutritious meals, drinking lots of water, exercising (which improves your mood) and getting enough sleep is so important for your mental health. Getting enough Vitamin C & D will help you keep a balanced lifestyle and give you the energy you need to get through the day.
#3 Change Things Up
Although our routines make us more efficient and enhance our feelings of security and safety, a little change of pace can perk up a tedious schedule. Alter your jogging route, plan a road-trip, redecorate your home or try a new restaurant.
#4 Set Realistic Goals
Urgh! I'm so bad at this one. My favourite pastime is spreading myself too thin. Decide what you want to achieve academically, professionally and personally, and write down the steps you need to realize your goals.It's taken me years to assess everything that needs to be done and then set realistic goals accordingly. I always told myself that the harder I work the more I'll accomplish but overworking yourself is not the answer.
#5 Learn to Deal With Your Stress
I'm still struggling with this one but I think the therapy along with mindfulness makes it a little easier. Unfortunately stress is a part of life so the only thing we can do is practice good coping skills. I personally find that taking a few minutes to sit on the grass outside in the sun and playing with my pet not only relaxes me but also grounds me and gives me a minute to take it all in and to let go of any negative energy that I feel.
#6 Take a Moment of Silence to Reflect
Try meditating, mindfulness or prayer. Relaxation exercises and prayer can improve your state of mind and outlook on life. In fact, research shows that meditation may help you feel calm and enhance the effects of therapy. Taking time to relax in the bath or having a cup of tea in the sun will definitely relax your body and allow you to be still and have time to reflect.
#7 The People Around You Matter
It's so important to surround yourself with the right people. People with strong family or social connections are generally healthier than those who lack a support network. Make plans with supportive family members and friends, or seek out activities where you can meet new people, such as a club, class or support group. I make a point of it to visit at least one family member a week and it's really improved my overall mood.
#8 Focus on What You're Good At
Do something you're good at to build self-confidence. This will make it much easier to tackle tougher tasks later on. I love getting bursts of creativity and using my hands to create, it makes me feel good to put my energy into something that I love doing and then working on more mundane or difficult tasks later on.
#9 Get a Good Nights Rest
Did you know that you sleep better in a cooler room? The optimal temperature for sleep is 60 degrees Fahrenheit which is about 15 degrees Celsius.
#10 Treat Yourself to Some Dark Chocolate
That's right! The flavanoids, caffeine, and theobromine in chocolate are thought to work together to improve alertness and mental skills. This is your hall pass to indulge in everyone's favourite snack!
We hope these tips will put you in a better mental space.
Until next time
Sending love and light!